Kriti Mehrotra
While there’s no denying love and relationships are hard work, things get a lot more complicated if the individuals involved aren’t on the same page when it comes to building a future together. This much has clearly been evidenced in Netflix’s ‘The Ultimatum: Queer Love,’ wherein five couples attempt to overcome all their differences by really delving deep into what/who they desire. Amongst them were actually Tiff Der (they/them) and Mildred Bustillo (she/her) — so now, if you wish to learn more about them as well as their current standing, we have got the details for you.
Tiff and Mildred’s The Ultimatum: Queer Love Journey
It was seemingly back in 2019 when Tiff first came across Mildred on the Instagram hashtag “lesbian Latina,” only to immediately slide into her DMs to make it known they were quite interested. “I was lonely, single,” the 32-year-old conceded. “I would not say thirsty, but a little parched,” and definitely unaware she was a single mother to a special needs teen son as well as a divorcee. Nevertheless, they were precisely the kind of person the other needed at the time, sparking a full-blown romance that then resulted in them building a blissful (yet tumultuous) home together.
We say tumultuous because Tiff and Mildred admittedly fought a lot, had major communication issues, and split up at least once or twice a month before getting back together — it was just toxic. Therefore, the former genuinely worried about what marriage would look like even though they’d established they were compatible in bed and their partner was more than ready for the next step. That’s why the latter was the one to state in this series (filmed in 2021) she hopes “this experiment helps us determine whether we want to move forward… Whether you want to [move forward].”
However, the truth is Tiff also struggled with understanding if Mildred merely wanted the concept of marriage in her life or if she wanted it with them, making this whole venture perfect for this duo. This is not to say they both didn’t have trouble adjusting to their new norm of looking for a “trial wife” because they did; it’s just that this process helped them realize where they needed to improve. But alas, when the time came to make a choice, the former made it clear they only wanted their original love despite the fact they were sure they’d have a great “trial marriage” with their pick.
Ultimately, though, following a lot of emotional tears and a clear sense of distance, Tiff chose the caring, compassionate Sam Mark to be their “trial wife,” whereas Mildred went with quiet Aussie Chau. And that’s when things truly began to change for them as not just a couple but also individuals; while the former learned how to communicate better thanks to their new companion after a few outbursts as well as rude encounters against her, the latter remained quite passive-aggressive with her new mate at every friction-causing step of the way. So, it honestly remained unclear how the original pair would turn out at the end of their own three-week-long trial marriage.
Tiff and Mildred Are No Longer Together
Since neither Tiff nor Mildred developed attachments or romantic feelings for their respective trial partners, their own trial run definitely started full of comfort, romance, and spiciness. Nevertheless, we also can’t deny that the root cause of a notable portion of their initial issues wasn’t really addressed throughout their time apart, so they ended up slipping back into old ways after a while together. Though we were still trying to remain optimistic as they continued their journey together, which is why we were glad to see them get engaged on decision day.
However, Tiff and Mildred are no longer together — their engagement ended with the former calling the police on the latter for violence after she threw a pet gate at them following a fight. There were obviously some other issues between them too, yet the fact of the matter remains they parted ways and have since decided to cease all contact in the hopes of moving on for good.
Therefore, we should mention that while Tiff is thriving in San Diego as the host of ‘Fweebs Podcast’ at the moment, Mildred is juggling life as a mother, entrepreneur, as well as a Zumba instructor. Moreover, it seems like they’re both single at the moment, but the public figure is admittedly actively dating in the hopes of finding forever love — ideally, someone with a “gentle spirit.”
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