Kriti Mehrotra
With Netflix’s ‘The Ultimatum: Queer Love‘ delving into the question of “Is adoration as well as intimacy enough?” we get a true insight into the complexities of romance, relationships, and rights. After all, it revolves around a group of LGBTQ+ couples as they attempt to navigate the crossroads they have reached on the way to attaining their future aspirations of tying the knot for good. Amongst them were actually Lexi Goldberg (she/her) and Raelyn “Rae” Cheung-Sutton (she/her) — so now, if you simply wish to learn more about them, we’ve got the necessary details for you.
Lexi and Rae’s The Ultimatum: Queer Love Journey
Although Lexi was merely 21 when she first came across Rae on Bumble before meeting her on a fateful night out a short while later in West Hollywood, she quickly knew she had found the one. In fact, their two-year age gap or the latter having initially reached out for a mere “booty call” did not matter to her either because the only thing it did in her mind was underscore her authenticity. “I love Rae more than I think I ever will love another person,” the former elucidated in the series (filmed in 2021). “We’ve been together for over 3 years now, and I really want to marry this girl.”
However, with Rae’s admitted tendency to overanalyze every little thing and her doubt over whether a picturesque marriage or happily ever after even exists for her, they just couldn’t move on. That’s why Lexi issued an ultimatum — she didn’t want her then 27-year-old girlfriend to feel like she was “pushed against a wall,” but she did need her to gain some “clarity” through exploration. Thus began their time in the experience, only for it to soon come to light that they were both initially drawn towards self-proclaimed influencer Vanessa Papa (originally Xander Boger’s partner).
Though things soon changed for Lexi as an intimate date with Vanessa revealed she wasn’t sure if she even wanted to get married and if her original partner would find other potential matches. This obviously infuriated the former, not just owing to her disregard for the core purpose behind the entire experiment but also her unclear motives toward Rae, driving her to turn quite protective. It was actually to such an extent the then-24-year-old made sure to call her out during “The Choice,” yet her “ex” still went ahead with her gut feeling and picked her as her three-week trial wife.
That’s when Lexi and Rae’s connection started to turn rockier than ever before, especially since the youngster herself decided to focus only upon her own incredibly caring trial wife, Mal Wright. The fact Rae and Vanessa engaged physically despite having no real attachment didn’t help matters either — Lexi didn’t trust the latter and couldn’t understand how her ex let things get this far. There was a small silver lining in the fact it was Rae who honestly let her know everything to have transpired the morning after itself because of guilt, but that’s about it due to the consequences of it all.
“You come into this process, right?” Lexi said in the production. “And you give each other the room. You give each other the space to explore everything this is. I didn’t ask [Rae] to tell me she wasn’t going to sleep with Vanessa. I didn’t ask that of her. I tried to tell her to just be careful. The type of person Vanessa is, I don’t think she’s here for the right reasons.” She then broke down and added, “The person I thought loved me came here and then slept with that person. It feels like a betrayal. I’m sick to my stomach about it… Why would I ever want to marry someone like that?”
Lexi and Rae Have Broken Up
Surprisingly, Lexi and Rae gradually managed to make things work and walked out of the experiment blissfully engaged. This much is actually even apparent through the way they can both be seen wearing bands on their ring fingers in their Instagram posts between 2022 as well as early 2023, plus they often interacted through likes and comments too, as seen below.
You can also check out this January 2023 post by fellow cast member Yoly Rojus for the same, where you can see both Lexi and Rae hanging out with her. Then there’s this Halloween 2022 post by Rae with the caption “Looking for my Pam Anderson,” which is really significant because Lexi’s Instagram bio reads, in part, “Was once called ‘Our generation’s Pam Anderson.'”
But alas, Lexi and Rae didn’t last — they called off their engagement earlier this year as they both felt like they just weren’t right for one another. There was undeniable love, respect, care, as well as affection between them, as it always will be considering their extensive history, but admittedly no romance.
“There’s no bad blood, and I want nothing but the best for her,” Lexi recently said. “It’s sad and bittersweet… but I hope there’s a way to become friends at some point.” More importantly, though, the Social Media Personality revealed she has since moved on — “I found somebody that gives me all of the love and happiness I felt with Mal [my trial wife, who is now family], mixed with an intimacy that we’re exploring.”
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